Dear Jill,
It seems serious and this is what you need to do. The first puja is the most important one, so do this first and soon.
- Che-trul: Either request Yangsi Rinpoche or Dagchen Rinpoche in Seattle to do this.
- Gyab-shi: To be performed by the Kopan nuns.
- She-nyin dü-dog: The Lama Gyupas here can do this.
- Ga-gön