Prayers For Child’s Return

Prayers For Child’s Return

Date of Advice:
October 2017
Date Posted:
December 2018

A student asked Rinpoche for advice about regaining care of a child after a divorce.

Lama Zopa Rinpoche, Root Institute, India, January 2009. Photo: Ven. Roger Kunsang.

My most dear, most kind, most precious, wish-fulfilling one,
I am sorry there wasn’t time to meet. I checked, and it would be very good if you can recite the Padmasambhava prayer [Tib: Tendrel Nyesel] a number of times every day.

However, it is very important that your motivation to get your daughter back is not only attachment. That would mean the time you spend reciting the prayer only becomes the cause of the lower realms, it doesn’t become Dharma. Even to get your daughter back, it should be to benefit her so that she can benefit sentient beings. Therefore, do the practice with bodhicitta motivation and in that way you should recite the Padmasambhava prayer, thinking:

The purpose of my life is not just to achieve happiness now for myself, whether temporal happiness or ultimate happiness and liberation from samsara forever; it is to free the numberless sentient beings from each realm, from the six realms’ sufferings and their causes, delusions and karma, and not only that, to bring them to peerless happiness, the total cessation of obscurations and completion of realizations.

To do that perfectly, I need to achieve the state of omniscience, therefore I am going to recite this prayer.

To get your daughter back should be to benefit her, to bring her into Dharma, to educate her to create good karma—only from that happiness comes. People in the world don’t know this, only those people who have met Dharma and practice Dharma know. The world doesn’t know this is the way; even Western scientists and Western governments have not discovered this. They think that the way to achieve happiness is only by working with external things, but that is only helping the conditions.

The main cause of happiness is your own mind, a positive mind, a virtuous mind, virtuous thought and positive action, so like that. The mind has to be Dharma, actions have to be Dharma, to cause happiness, to bring happiness, then ultimate happiness, liberation from samsara forever, and peerless happiness, enlightenment. Therefore, the motivation has to be compassion for all beings, bodhicitta, in order to achieve enlightenment for all sentient beings.

It’s very good for you to have around you and in your house this success elephant. Keep this elephant for success. There is a mantra on it, so you need to respect it. You can’t put it under the body or on the floor.

You also need to recite the following mantra from the Method to Transform a Suffering Life into Happiness (Including Enlightenment). You should recite this mantra a few times every day, not only for your daughter, but also it’s just generally very good to recite.

Holy Name and Mantra that Fulfill Wishes

Anyone who recites the name of this tathagata and memorizes the words of this mantra will have all their wishes fulfilled. Reciting both the name and the mantra brings success. During that time look at a picture of the Buddha. Look at it while reciting the prayers, to create good karma.

So please try this. Also, if you can, do the whole Method to Transform daily motivation every day, this is so good.

With much love and prayers