Afflicted by Jealousy

Afflicted by Jealousy

Date of Advice:
January 2019
Date Posted:
June 2023

A student believed their current partner would be unfaithful. The strong feelings of jealousy had a negative impact on the relationship and obscured their rational thinking. The student asked Rinpoche for guidance and practices.

My most dear, most kind, most precious wish-fulfilling one,

Thank you for your email and sorry for the very long delay.

Regarding what you are asking, if you do the daily meditation practice, this has all the answers for your life and for all sentient beings, how to free sentient beings from suffering, not only every human being but every single ant, every single mosquito, all the chickens, goats, dogs, fish, everyone.

If you can do this, it will help a lot. It cuts the self-cherishing thought and generates cherishing others, it cuts the self-cherishing thought, where the problems come from. It cuts this. All these problems come from your mind, they are all created by your mind, projected by the mind, by the self-cherishing thought. The other one is ignorance, holding the I and phenomena as real while they are not, while they are existing only in mere name. That is a big thing in your life.

So you should practice this and then let me know. This is the source of Dharma happiness up to enlightenment.

Please find my advice for your whole life practice below. This is the whole lifetime’s practice, what makes the life most meaningful for sentient beings. For the rest of your life try to live as much as possible for sentient beings. Do the morning motivation [How to Make My Lives Wish-Fulfilling: The Method to Transform a Suffering Life into Happiness] as I explained, and after that live your life as much as possible for others. That is the most important thing, more important than boyfriends. Do what is more helpful for sentient beings according to that.

Practice advice
  • Refuge: 300,000
  • Vajrasattva: 300,000
  • Water bowl offering: 300,000 with extensive offering practice
  • Lama Tsongkhapa Guru Yoga: 2,000. The main thing is to count the migtsema mantra 2,000 times.

For you the main lamrim text is Lamrim Chenmo or Middle-Length Lamrim. Please study the text from beginning to end three times. Do effortful lamrim meditation following the lamrim outlines, then do effortless meditation.

Thank you very much,

With much love and prayers ...

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