My dear father,
How are you? I hope you are well!
I heard from your daughter that you are constantly missing your wife, her mother, who passed away. I understand, because you lived together for a long time, for so many years. She relied on you and you relied on her, so you lived like that.
The reason you two met each other in this life and lived together is the result of past karma, past actions. It is not just one time you had this connection. You have had connections with her in the past in whatever form it was—as wife or husband, father or mother, brother or sister, enemy or friend. She could have been your wife before, or your husband in recent past lives, or your girlfriend or boyfriend.
This is not the only time you have been together. Being together in this life is also the result of past habits, karma, which did not have a beginning. There are also many other reasons, such as habits from your past, and not only that, as long as we are in samsara, the circle of birth and death, as long as we are not free from that, by taking these aggregates, which are in the nature of suffering, this body and mind is also in the nature of suffering, again and again.
You lived with her and she lived with you, which is a strong cause to meet again in future lives, until you are free from samsara. Until you are free from birth and death, endlessly you will meet each other again. Until you are free from samsara and she is free from samsara, you will meet each other again and again. So there is no need to worry at all.
The only thing that is changing is to a different body, so the body is not the same. Changing the body is like changing our clothes. Even in one day we change our clothes several times. In the morning we wear one thing, then another when we are going to a party and another at night. So, changing the body is like changing our clothes.
All of us are like this. This is what will happen to all of us until we are free from samsara. Then our mind will be holy, a positive mind, a healthy mind, a more positive mind and more virtue. This is the main mind that frees us from the oceans of samsara.
The aggregates of body and mind are in the nature of suffering, but we can be free from this suffering by realizing the ultimate nature of I and the aggregates. This wisdom is the main one that ceases the direct cause of samsaric suffering, delusion and karma.
It isn’t that the Omniscient One, the Buddha, transplants his wisdom into us. It is not like that. It is achieved by understanding, meditating and actualizing the path, the true path revealed by the Buddha, the Omniscient One.
So you don’t have to worry at all! Totally relax. Worry doesn’t help one single thing. It does not benefit; it has no benefit to the life.
Please hang this mantra that I wrote for you near your bed or where you stay longest. It gives unbelievable purification, it purifies the negative mind, obscurations and karma. It brings benefit up to enlightenment.
With much love and prayers ...