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Advices posted during the month of October 2005
Family and Relationships > Having a Baby > The Purpose of Having a Baby
A Taiwanese student had been married more than 12 years, but had not been able to have any children. She told Rinpoche that she and her husband loved each other very much, and had been examined and tested, and, according to Western medicine,...
Family and Relationships > Having a Baby > The Purpose of Having a Baby
Rinpoche sent the following letter to a student who had recently had a baby.
Family and Relationships > Children > Practices for Children
Rinpoche suggested this outline as a daily practice for a group of children in Australia.
Family and Relationships > Children > Practices for Children
Rinpoche gave this advice to a school teacher who was having difficulty with the children. Although she wanted very much to help them, they wouldn’t listen to her and were being disrespectful.
Family and Relationships > Children > Practices for Children
Rinpoche gave this advice to the director of a school in Switzerland for dealing with violence at school.
Family and Relationships > Parenting > Bringing up Children
Rinpoche visited two students and also spent some time with one of their children. Afterward, Rinpoche sent the following message to the parents about this child.
Family and Relationships > Parenting > Parenting Problems
Rinpoche gave the following advice to a student regarding her children’s problems. Her thirteen-year-old daughter had been hospitalized, and had been abused by the student's father. Her seventeen-year-old son was involved in drugs and Satanism,...
Contemporary Issues > Students' Letters > Other Letters
This is a letter from a student who had some realizations about the suffering of cyclic existence. Rinpoche felt it could be helpful for others to read.
Family and Relationships > Parenting > Parenting Problems
A student expressed concern for her teenage daughter, who was 16 years old and had started experimenting with different things. The mother felt that daughter was not always telling her the truth.
Family and Relationships > Parenting > Parenting Problems
A student described the problems her oldest daughter had with bipolar disorder and described herself as a bad mother who drank when her children were growing up.
Family and Relationships > Relationship Problems > Advice on Relationship Problems
After being in an abusive relationship for some years, a woman had recently separated for her husband, after suffering physical, verbal, and emotional abuse. Rinpoche wrote her the following letter. [Please note: If you...
Family and Relationships > Relationship Problems > Advice on Relationship Problems
During a stay in Hong Kong, Rinpoche was hosted by a woman who was experiencing excessive strain in her marriage. According to her, the primary condition for the escalating tension between her and her husband seemed to be the financial...
Family and Relationships > Relationship Problems > Disharmony in the Family
After a couple divorced, the woman was trying to develop a relationship with a new man, but the daughter opposed the new relationship. The mother and daughter were fighting bitterly over it, and the daughter was refusing to allow the mother into...
Death and Transitions > Preparing Oneself for Death > Preparing for Death
While giving advice on preparing for death and dying, Rinpoche commented on the importance of settling finances before death approaches, and using one’s wealth charitably.
Death and Transitions > Caring for Others at the Time of Death > Caring for the Dying
Rinpoche gave the following advice to a student who was taking care of his dying father.
Death and Transitions > Caring for Others at the Time of Death > Caring for the Dying
Rinpoche gave the following advice to a student whose father had died and whose mother had gone into hospital.
Death and Transitions > Caring for Others at the Time of Death > Caring for the Dying
A student was concerned about Rinpoche’s advice to chant mantras to a dying person even if it upset them. Rinpoche had advised to do this because of the powerful imprints left on the person’s mind from the mantras. The student was worried that...
Death and Transitions > Caring for Others at the Time of Death > Caring for the Dying
This advice was given by Rinpoche to a student whose mother was dying. Although the mother had begun practicing Buddhism, after meeting the Dharma very late in life, she did not have much of a formal practice. Rinpoche went to the hospital to...
Death and Transitions > Caring for Others at the Time of Death > Caring for the Dying
A young nun had been diagnosed with advanced cancer. She had exhausted the options for a cure and was nearing death. A number of people were concerned about her state of mind and were reluctant to tell her that she would die soon. When Rinpoche...
Death and Transitions > Caring for Others at the Time of Death > The Moment of Death
A student asked what practice to do if he knew he were about to die.
Death and Transitions > Practices for the Deceased > Death of a Loved One
Rinpoche offered the following advice about dealing with grief.
Death and Transitions > Practices for the Deceased > Death of a Loved One
A former center director and student of many years died of cancer. Rinpoche wrote this letter is to his wife and child.
Death and Transitions > Practices for the Deceased > Prayers and Practices for the Deceased
Rinpoche gave the following talk to Sangha members in a restaurant in Singapore on the benefits of performing pujas for those who have died.
Death and Transitions > Practices for the Deceased > Prayers and Practices for the Deceased
Rinpoche gave the following instructions on what to do with a deceased person’s ashes, to be of maximum benefit for them.
Death and Transitions > Other Transitions > Euthanasia
A wealthy Chinese Buddhist in Sydney had some unconventional ideas about Buddhism and how to apply it. One of these was to start a Buddhist hospice that practiced euthanasia “with compassion.” Euthanasia was, and still is, against the law in that...
