My very dear Hayley,
I am very sorry for the very long delay in replying. I read your letter.

So with compassion, to purify the negative karma related to __ and all others, not only in this life, but collected from beginningless rebirth, which is the cause of all the sufferings and all the problems now and in the future, and to have realizations to achieve the blissful state of peace, full enlightenment for sentient beings, peerless happiness for sentient beings, it comes out for you to:

• Read the Arya Sanghata Sutra and also write it out. Reading is fast, that is very good, that is what came out in my observation.

Reading the Arya Sanghata Sutra is a most unbelievable, unbelievable, unbelievable way to collect merit. Even just reading four words, one is able to purify the five very heavy negative karmas (killing one’s father and mother, killing an arhat, drawing blood from a buddha and causing disunity amongst the Sangha). The result of these five very heavy negative karmas is that after death one is immediately reborn in the lowest hot hell. There are eight hot hells and six neighboring hells and ordinary hell. The eighth hot hell is the inexhaustible hell realm, so that is unbelievable suffering. Reading the Arya Sanghata Sutra can purify the karma to be reborn there.

• Recite the names of the Thirty-five Buddhas, and if possible, do prostrations to the Thirty-five Buddhas, thinking the Buddha is oneness with the Guru. 

This is a very powerful purification practice and also to collect merits. Lama Tsongkhapa did 700,000 prostrations by reciting the Thirty-five Buddhas’ names and he saw the Thirty-five Buddhas, so one of the images we have is according to the vision Lama Tsongkhapa had. After that, he had a rainfall of realizations, so it’s very powerful.

Please continue to make your life most meaningful with the thought of bodhicitta day and night.

With much love and prayers...

PS. I wanted to add some more.

Reading the Arya Sanghata Sutra will also help all three of your problems. It is unbelievably, unbelievably helpful and powerful to collect merit, a billion, zillion times, so much greater than that and also for strong purification.

I’m sorry to tell you this, but when I met you in New York, you were with __. I saw you outside and I already felt your connection with him, I felt that intimacy.

If you want my answer about finding a boyfriend or partner for your mental comfort or physical sex, of course, if you find somebody who has not renounced this life, the eight worldly dharmas— someone who is a servant of the eight worldly dharmas, the eight worldly concerns—then you will have so many problems in your life. You will have so many problems because that person is living the life with the mind of the eight worldly concerns and attachment to this life, with the self-cherishing thought. Then by being with that person you will suffer so much, because maybe he won’t take care of you or he will not be dedicated to you, then there is suffering. Also maybe that person has other friends besides you, girlfriends or boyfriends, or gets bored with you after some time, by seeing somebody else, then there are so many problems.

I think you should pray to Palden Lhamo (the main one) and also pray to Tara, and make prayers to both deities that the person who you have intimacy with and share your life with, that it will be somebody who is a buddha, a bodhisattva, with no self-cherishing thought, with the thought only of benefiting others. So pray like that. If you really, really want someone who can help you—not only fulfilling or giving pleasure this life, but ultimate happiness, the blissful state of peace, liberation from samsara—who gives you that quickly, and full enlightenment, the peerless happiness, state of omniscient mind, for you to be able to do perfect works for sentient beings, to benefit sentient beings, that is what you should pray.

Thank you very much. According to what you expressed to me and what you wanted, so I replied this way.

With much love and prayers...