Financial and Relationship Difficulties

Financial and Relationship Difficulties

Date of Advice:
March 2015
Date Posted:
May 2016

A student was losing money every month and could not make a living any more. He had followed Rinpoche’s previous advice and had done 80 Vajra Armor sadhanas, but his situation had not improved. He said it seemed that the black magic Rinpoche had previously mentioned was still affecting him. The student also asked about his friend’s relationship problems.

My most dear, most kind, most precious wish-fulfilling one,
Thank you for your email. Regarding your first question about your financial situation, it is a sign of black magic. According to my observation, it came out to recite the Lion-faced Dakini practice with mantra and also to recite Vajra Claws at least once every day until the problem changes. Sorry, that might have been my mistake—the name of the puja is actually Vajra Claws, not Vajra Armor, but that is karma.

Most important is to practice lo-jong, thought transformation, utilizing the problems in the path to enlightenment as explained in the Lama Chöpa practice. You need to practice thought transformation and use the difficulties to practice conventional bodhicitta and also ultimate bodhicitta.

Regarding your question about a friend who felt very negative due to a relationship ending, in this case I sent her two or three lo-jong practices, thought transformation, utilizing the difficulties in the path to enlightenment.

I was talking in a Dharma way and giving advice that even if there was no problem from her side and what happened was that her friend had a relationship with somebody else, still even in a normal worldly situation like this, she should use what happened in the path to enlightenment and not as a path to be depressed and commit suicide, these kind of things. Instead of using it as a cause of samsara and a cause of the lower realms, she should use it as a cause to achieve the dharmakaya, to achieve enlightenment for sentient beings, to be able to free the numberless sentient beings from the oceans of samsaric suffering and bring them to full enlightenment.

So we should pray for her. Whenever you do your practice of Medicine Buddha, Chenrezig and so on, pray for her mind to become Dharma; for Dharma to become the path to nirvana, liberation from samsara; and for there to be no obstacles to the path but for the path to become the path to enlightenment. Pray for her even to have tantric realizations in this life and to generate the realization of correctly devoting to the virtuous friend, by seeing that one guru is all the buddhas.

But you know whatever happens in this life is the result of our own past karma. In the past we have collected the karma to experience things this way. It is mentioned in the lo-jong text, the Seven Point Thought Transformation:

Put all the blame onto one;
Meditate on the kindness towards others.

This achievement is the heart practice of Mahayana Buddhism.

Whatever I explained to your friend, she could not accept and instead she totally blamed the other person. I even told her what the Panchen Lama, Losang Chökyi Gyaltsen, said in the Lama Chöpa, that even if all sentient beings become your enemy, are angry, beat and even kill you, in return you should practice patience and cherish them as more dear than your life.

That means you should regard them as so precious. If you practice this way you will get enlightened easier and quicker. But she doesn’t know this and just follows attachment and anger, saying that it’s completely the other person’s fault.

So please pray for her as I explained, then after some time it can change. Thank you very much.

With much love and prayers...