Relationship Problems

Lama Zopa Rinpoche receives thousands of letters every year from people seeking guidance on a variety of issues. His advice is made available here, so it may be of benefit to others.

This topic contains advice and practices for family conciliation when there has been disharmony and conflict.  Rinpoche discusses the karma of relationship problems and offers advice to students who have been in difficult relationships.

Important Note on Context and Personal Safety

This advice was given to specific individuals in particular circumstances and should be understood within its original context. It is provided for informational purposes only and may be applied at your own discretion.

Personal safety and self-care are paramount. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, coercion, violence, exploitation, or any situation that feels unsafe, please seek support from an appropriate service in your region and, where appropriate, develop a safety plan.

If engaging with teachings or advice on this website causes distress or brings underlying issues in relation to past abuse to the surface, we recommend that you seek support from a suitably qualified professional or support service.

Nothing on this website should be understood as condoning abusive, coercive, exploitative or harmful behaviour, or as discouraging individuals from seeking support, establishing appropriate boundaries, or taking steps to ensure their safety and wellbeing.

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