Practicing the Good Heart
Lama Zopa Rinpoche
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This is the transcript of a public talk given by Lama
Zopa Rinpoche in Sydney, Australia on October 2, 1987.
Edited by Ven. Ailsa Cameron and checked by Ingeborg
Sandberg. A more edited version was published as a Wisdom
Basic Transcript in
1996 by Wisdom
Publications.
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First I would like to thank very much everybody who has
come here. I am very happy to meet again those whom I have
met before, and those whom I have not met before in this
life. I hope that there will be some benefit to you even
from my mumbling.
I thought to speak a little about Buddhist conduct and view.
Buddhist conduct means not harming other living beings; Buddhist
view means dependent arising.
The value of a good heart
Buddhist conduct involves great compassion for all living
beings. If we have compassion in our heart and our actions
come from that compassion, it is impossible for us to harm
other living beings. Since we have compassion for others,
our actions benefit rather than harm them.
First of all, remember that there is
not one living being who wants to receive harm—not
even one. Because of this,
Guru Shakyamuni Buddha, the founder of Buddhism, trained
his mind in compassion for all living beings and completed
this training. This was the main practice accomplished by
Buddha. With himself as an example, out of his great compassion,
Buddha then advised us to have compassion for all other living
beings, and not to harm them.
Even if we cannot benefit others, at least we should not
harm them. On the basis of not harming others, we then develop
the capacity to benefit them. This is Buddha's essential
advice to us, which he himself accomplished. From the 84,000
teachings of sutra and tantra, this is the essential practice.
If we do not do this practice of abandoning harm to others,
there is no spiritual practice in our life.
No matter how much people claim to be meditating or doing
profound, secret practices, if they cannot abandon giving
harm to others, they are not doing the fundamental practice
of Buddhism. I think the fundamental practice of all religions,
not only Buddhism, is to abandon harming others and practice
compassion. This is the essence of all the various religions.
Whether we are Moslem, Christian, Hindu or Buddhist, the
essential point is not to harm others and to generate compassion
for them.
If we act in this way, our religious
practice will bring happiness to others. We will
give happiness to others, and we will also certainly obtain
happiness for ourselves. Even if we cannot bring happiness
to others, our religious practice at least will become beneficial
in terms of our own happiness and will not harm us. This
is a very important point to analyze and understand. Our
practice of religion should at least benefit us with happiness
now, and in the future.
It is very important to have a generous,
compassionate mind. Without a generous mind, a compassionate
heart, no matter
how wealthy we are, there is no mental peace in our daily
life. Our problems become even greater than before
we became wealthy. Our mind becomes more dissatisfied,
with more worry and fear. We have more enemies and tend to
harm others.
If our heart is empty of compassion, no matter
how educated we are—even if we know everything
taught in all the universities, have every single degree!—again
we have the same problem: we have no peace of mind. We have
more pride than when we were uneducated and so many
more problems. Our life passes full of problems and
finishes while we are experiencing big problems, such as
disharmony, worry,
and fear.
Even if we are a Buddhist and know by
heart all the sutra and tantra teachings of Buddha, and all
the commentaries
written by the pandits, even if we can explain them all well,
if our heart is empty of compassion, if we do not have a
generous mind towards other living beings in our daily life,
there is still no peace of mind. Even extensive, intellectual
understanding of Buddhism does not guarantee mind-peace.
This can apply to any religion.
Even if we own diamonds or dollars equal to the number of
atoms of the earth, if our heart is empty of compassion for
others, our life is empty. Even with that much wealth, our
life is empty; there is no happiness. However, even if we
do not own one atom of diamond or one dollar, if we have
compassion for all beings, there is great peace and happiness
in our everyday life.
We can see that none of these alone—wealth, education,
or religious knowledge—offers peace of mind. What provides
peace of mind and
happiness is having a good heart, a
generous mind.
Nothing in life is more important than this good heart. Mountains
of gold or diamonds cannot compare with the value
of this good heart. Without compassion there is
no peace or happiness in day-to-day life, so that wealth
becomes worthless. Compared to the value of one generous
mind, it is nothing. Compassion is incredibly precious and
important. It is of the utmost need in each hour, each minute,
each second, for the happiness of oneself, and especially
for the happiness of all other living beings.
This good heart should be our prime
concern in life. Among all our activities, our enjoyment
of food, clothing
and places, this good heart is the first thing we have to
consider. We have to take care to generate compassion within
our heart. Among all our everyday activities, we can see
that this is the most important to practice from morning
until night.
If we have a good heart, we experience much happiness and
relaxation. We have no reason to feel angry or jealous and
we have a very happy mind. When we speak, sweet words come
out. Even our face is happy and smiling. At night we go to
bed with a happy mind and have a very comfortable sleep,
without any worries.
Otherwise, if we live our life with
a very selfish, ungenerous mind, we think about nothing else
except me, me, me: "When
will I be happy? When will I be free from these problems?" If
our attitude is like this, jealousy and anger arise easily,
strongly and repeatedly, so we experience much unhappiness
in our life, many ups-and-downs. During the day we have
a cold heart and at night we even go to bed with a cold heart
and unhappy mind.
No matter how hard one tries, a person
with a very selfish attitude finds it difficult to make friends.
Even when one
does manage to make friends, the friendships don't last.
Sooner or later, after a few days, after a few hours, his
friend becomes his enemy. Anyone with a very strongly selfish
attitude has few friends and many enemies. Wherever they
go, they always have problems. People always complain about
them and warn others, "Don't let him
stay at your house!" Even though this person wants
only a good reputation, does not want the slightest bad reputation,
his or her selfish mind naturally brings about a bad reputation.
When they visit other people, people are not happy to see
them.
However, people who have a good heart,
who care more about others than themselves, always have a
good reputation.
Wherever
they go, they have many friends and they find that other
people are happy to help them. When this someone with a good
heart goes to
visit other
people, they are happy to see him and have him
stay in their house. People are always very happy to meet
and help such a person—crowds of people want to help him.
The other selfish, impatient person,
even if he has a very miserable time, has difficulty finding
people to help
him. Nobody wants to help him. Other people are even
glad to
hear that he is sick; they may even wish him to die.
It is the complete opposite for the person with a good
heart. There is much happiness in his life. Even if
he has nothing
but water to drink, he is very happy and can enjoy
it. If our attitude is very selfish, very impatient,
very
cruel, even if we eat food costing many thousands of
dollars or
drink very expensive drinks, we find no enjoyment.
We cannot even taste the food because our mind is filled
with problems
and worries. We cannot even enjoy eating expensive
food
in
a luxurious place.
Even though physically we may be able
to go to the moon or other planets, if from birth until death
we do not
have a
good heart towards those with whom we live, there
is no happiness. Our life becomes empty—an empty human
life.
A good heart
is priceless, more precious than anything else in
the
world.
The happiness of others
Starting from our family, the happiness of all beings is
dependent upon us. Eliminating their problems, giving them
happiness, is our responsibility. This is very important
to understand, and to feel, in our everyday life.
I often use the example of a couple in which the wife practices
good heart while the husband is selfish. Because the wife
has more thought of cherishing her husband than herself,
when he causes her some problem, she does not retaliate.
By not retaliating, she not only has happiness in her life,
but gives him fewer problems, which means more peace. If
she retaliates when he gives her a hard time, his problems
become greater. Because she does not retaliate, he does not
have that additional problem, so there is more happiness
for him.
If we have a toothache, but today the toothache is less painful
than yesterday, we say, "I am better today." It
does not mean there is no pain at all; it just means we are
happier today. Why? Because today we do not have as much
pain as we had yesterday. The pain is less today so we are
happier, and label "better" on that.
It is similar
with the couple: As the wife practices good heart, the
husband receives one problem fewer, so he is happier. His
happiness
came from her, is dependent on her. In the same way her
happiness is dependent on him; it has to come from him.
Like this, if there are twenty people in a family and one
of them practices good heart, nineteen people receive
one problem fewer. That person does not retaliate, so
does
not harm the rest of the family; they have that much
more happiness.
Their happiness came from this person. We can see very
clearly how this one person is responsible for the happiness
of the
nineteen other people; their happiness depends on him.
Now, it is the same with all the human beings and creatures
on this earth, who all want happiness and do not want
suffering. If one living being has a good heart and
does not harm
others, the harm received by all the rest of the living
beings becomes
that much less; they receive that much more happiness.
We can see that this one person is responsible for
the happiness
of all living beings.
It is similar with each of us here.
Starting from our family—the people with whom we live,
eat and work—the happiness
of all living beings is dependent upon us. If we
change our selfish attitude to one of loving compassion,
starting
from
our family, every other living being does not receive
harm from us. On top of that, they benefit by receiving
happiness.
If we do not change our selfish attitude,
our actions will not change, nor will the harm we give to
others. Starting from the small
number of beings with whom we live, eat and work,
who want happiness and do not want suffering,
to the
numberless other living beings, the harm they receive
from us will
not stop.
There is a big difference when we change from the
selfish mind to the good heart, which cherishes
others with
loving compassion. Starting from the small family
with which
we live, all others receive happiness and benefit
from us,
and also receive fewer problems. If we do not
change our selfish
mind, all other beings receive harm from us.
Whether others are happy or continue to receive harm
is
completely in
our hands. It is up to us. It is our decision.
Each of us is
completely responsible for the happiness of every
single sentient being.
For example, in our daily life, if we show loving
kindness and compassion for everyone from morning
until night,
treating them with respect, they are happy.
When others see that
we have loving kindness and compassion for
them, our attitude towards them makes them happy. Showing
respect
for them
with
our body and speech makes them happy. Even
smiling
at them makes them happy. The happiness of
others definitely depends
on us, on how we act towards them. If we think
of the experiences of our everyday life, it
is very
clear
that
we are responsible
for the happiness of others.
If we behave in the opposite way, following
selfish, impatient and jealous attitudes,
we make the
people we meet unhappy
and upset. The happiness of living beings
is very much dependent on us. By not changing
our selfish
attitude,
by not practicing
the good heart and cherishing others, how
many living beings have we harmed this year? From
birth until
now, how many
beings have we harmed? If we do not change
our attitude, even after death we will harm
others.
Consciousness continues
Think deeply about this: The direct cause of this life's
consciousness, which is shapeless and colorless, is not the
fertilized egg, but a consciousness of a similar type that
unites with the fertilized egg. There is continuation of
consciousness. This
present consciousness has continued from a past-life
consciousness, and that consciousness continued from the
consciousness of a previous life. In the West as well as
in the East, many people, both young and old, are able to
remember past lives and see future lives, their own and also
those of others. This comes about through development of
their minds, which means some achievement of the path, whether
through ordinary meditation practice or karma. As the mind
becomes more advanced, one can see and remember such things.
Some people can remember coming out
of their mother's womb; some can even remember being in the
womb. Similarly, some
people can remember past lives. Those who cannot remember
past lives are in the same situation as someone who cannot
remember what he ate yesterday or what he talked about
today. He also cannot remember all the games he played
as a child.
He cannot remember coming out of his mother's womb or what
he experienced in the womb. His inability to remember these
is not a valid proof that he was not in his mother's womb,
that he was not born from his mother's womb, that he did
not play as a child. In the same way, someone's inability
to remember past lives and see future lives does not mean
that past and future lives do not exist. They do exist—other
people with more advanced minds and greater knowledge can
see them.
As our mind becomes more advanced, we see that the selfish
attitude of our present life is the continuation of the
selfish attitude of our past life. And that selfish attitude
continued
from another past life, and so on. Just as the continuation
of our consciousness does not have a beginning, the continuation
of our selfish attitude does not have a beginning. Therefore,
we have been harming other living beings from beginningless
time until now. If we do not change our attitude in this
life, while we have this precious human body, we will
continue to harm other beings in all our future lives.
This selfish
attitude is unbelievably harmful.
By thinking of history, we can also understand how in
the past millions and millions of people were killed
because
one person did not practice the good heart. Uncountable
numbers of creatures also received harm. If this one
person had practiced
the good heart, if he had just practiced patience,
all these millions of people and uncountable numbers
of creatures
would
not have been killed. We can see that the happiness
of all those living beings was completely dependent on
that
person;
the entire problem came from that one person not practicing
the good heart, not cherishing other living beings.
Cherishing others
To practice the good heart in our everyday life is more important
than anything else. Feel this responsibility. Think again
and again, "I am responsible for the happiness of
all living beings." When we wake up in the morning,
as we open our eyes, we should think, "I am responsible
for the happiness of all living beings, and for the elimination
of all their problems. This is the purpose of my life.
This is why I have a human body." If you have dogs,
cats or birds in the house, think also of them, "The
reason I have this precious human body at this time is
to eliminate the problems of other living beings, and obtain
their happiness. This is the meaning of my life." Then think, "Cherishing myself is the greatest obstacle
to my happiness and the fulfillment of my wishes. Self-cherishing
is my greatest enemy. And there is no question that it is
the greatest obstacle to fulfilling the wishes of all living
beings and obtaining their happiness. There is no greater
obstacle than this."
Many times we ask such questions as, "How can I make
my life worthwhile? How can I benefit others?" The best
way to benefit others is to reduce our own selfish mind.
The more we reduce our selfish mind, the less harm others
receive from us, and the more temporal and ultimate benefit.
This is the best solution.
Those who practice Buddhism should think:
"Until I achieve enlightenment, until I die, this year, this
month,
this week, and especially today, I won't allow myself to
be controlled by the selfish mind. The best way to obtain
happiness for all living beings and fulfill all their wishes
is for me to cherish others. Until I achieve enlightenment,
until my death-time, this year, this month, this week, and
especially today, I will never separate from bodhicitta,
the thought cherishing other living beings." In the
morning when we wake up, with strong determination, we should
make this plan for our life.
When you go to work, do not think, "I am going to work
for my happiness, because I want money and comfort. Without
the money I won't have a comfortable life." Instead
of this selfish attitude, even if you cannot think of all
living beings, at least remember the kindness of the people
who employ you. Think, "Because they have employed me,
I can enjoy my life, and I have the opportunity to practice
the good heart and benefit myself and others. They are very
kind to me." Remembering their kindness, you then go
to work. Even though you are paid to work, your attitude
is to benefit your employers. At the beginning and from time
to time while you are working, remember this motivation.
Think of all the time we spend in one
day eating and drinking. All our enjoyments—food, clothing,
shelter—have been received
through the suffering of uncountable numbers of living beings.
To provide our enjoyments, other beings created much negative
karma by doing unwholesome actions harmful to others, many
of whom were killed. Since we receive our enjoyments from
the suffering of so many other beings, it is very important
to use them with the thought of benefiting others. To use
these enjoyments with a selfish mind, for our own happiness,
would be very cruel and very upsetting. It would show a very
poor mind.
Whenever you eat or drink, remember the purpose of life.
Be aware of your responsibility, which is to obtain happiness
for all living beings and eliminate their sufferings. The
purpose of your life is to offer service to others. For this
reason you need to be healthy and have a long life; therefore
you take your food as medicine.
If you spend your whole day with the
thought of benefiting others, all your activities—whether
working in an office
or at home, eating, dressing, putting on makeup, and so forth—become
pure Dharma, because they are unstained by selfish mind.
All your actions become pure virtue and the cause of happiness.
This is the best, most reliable business.
If you are taking care of your children or parents, or doing
similar work, again remember, "My responsibility is
to bring happiness to all living beings and eliminate all
their suffering. I am supposed to do this, but it is wonderful
that at least I have become of some use to some of them.
At least my body is benefiting one being (your child or parent).
How wonderful this is!" Think like this and rejoice.
If you constantly do your work with this attitude, there
is great happiness all the time and no space for depression.
Whether you are working for a hundred people or just one
person, and no matter how hard your work is, think like this,
especially thinking of yourself as the servant of others.
Instead of thinking that others are there for you to use
for your happiness, think, "I am the servant of others;
I am here for their happiness. Like one of their own limbs,
I am working to eliminate their problems and obtain their
happiness." If you think that you are the servant of
others, your problems stop. If you think that others are
your servants, problems arise in your mind.
Destroying yourself
If you have a problem with alcohol or other drugs, feel
the same responsibility, "I am responsible for the happiness
of all living beings. Besides the pleasure of drinking and
taking drugs, even if I received ultimate happiness, it would
be nothing to be excited about—I am just one person.
Even if every creature on this earth were angry and negative
towards
me, criticizing and beating me, it would be nothing to be
depressed about—I am just one person." If you do not
practice the good heart, there is a danger that you, this
one person, will harm all others, who are uncountable in
number. Like putting poison in a city water supply, you could
harm everyone. It is incredibly important that you do not
harm all other living beings like this.
If you have a problem with alcohol or
drugs, think: "For
me to offer service to others, who are countless, is unbelievably
important. In my life there is nothing more important than
this. How cruel it would be if I were to give up all the
rest of the living beings, who want happiness, help, loving
kindness and compassion from me. Just as I want all other
beings to help me, to show me loving kindness and compassion
and not harm me, they all want happiness and do not want
suffering. They want nothing more than this. They are all
exactly like me. What I want is what they want. So, in terms
of my own life, what should I do? Should I work for myself
or should I work for others?"
There is nothing more important than working for others.
They need your help for their temporal and ultimate benefit.
They want and need this from you. As long as you ignore them
and cherish only yourself, you will not even obtain your
own temporal happiness.
Think like this: "This is actually my wish, but in
reality I am completely destroying myself. By not controlling
my
mind,
by following
my desire to keep on drinking and taking drugs, I am becoming
unhealthy and shortening my precious human life. In reality
I am destroying myself. I am destroying this precious human
body, which has an incredible potential to benefit others—even
one living being. And there are countless living beings to
whom I can bring so much temporal and ultimate
happiness. Other living beings are dependent on me. By destroying
my precious human body, I'm actually harming all those other
living beings. I'm not allowing myself to serve others
and
fulfill their wishes. Seeking happiness only for myself
means giving up all these numberless living beings."
Buddhist teachings explain that in reality, as long as
you follow desire, there is no satisfaction at all.
This is the
worst suffering. You follow desire and there is no
satisfaction. You follow desire again, with no satisfaction.
You try
again and again, but find no satisfaction. You try
until your body
collapses, your whole life collapses. You drink until
you are unable to move. The end result is that you
become incapable
of functioning. You end up with a very empty life,
and experience great fear and anxiety when you die. I
have
heard from nurses
that alcoholics die with a lot of fear. This fear before
they die is a sign that they will have even more of
a problem after death.
It is the same with smoking. You may find you are smoking
so many cigarettes that you cannot stop, even though you
know it may be causing cancer and many other diseases. In
Tibetan Buddhist teachings, especially in the predictions
of Padmasambhava, tobacco is regarded as a black food, grown
through wrongful prayer. Evil beings prayed that tobacco
would disturb and harm people trying to live a good life,
interfere with the development of their minds and not allow
them to practice virtue, to practice meditation.
Many shortcomings of smoking are explained in the teachings.
Cigarettes, opium and such things pollute the chakras and
the wind, which is the vehicle of the mind, and thus cause
many disturbing thoughts to arise. Smoking causes anger
and attachment to arise very easily; it damages the mind,
making
it very dissatisfied and impatient. Smoking makes it very
difficult to develop your mind, and it especially interferes
with the practice of tantra.
Cigarette smoke enters the mouths and
noses of surrounding people—even those who do not smoke—when
they breathe in, then causes harm to their bodies and minds.
Even
though the person smoking may be a long way away from
me, in another
room, the smoke comes through the windows and goes into
my lungs. I feel a pain in my heart.
When there is a lot of smoke, the mind becomes unclear
and very, very sleepy. This proves that cigarette smoke
pollutes
the body and the mind. This is talking only about the
problems you experience in this life—not in the life
after this.
As explained in the sutra teachings, what you will experience
in the life after this will be much heavier.
You may spend a lot of money every day
on cigarettes, alcohol or other drugs. If you are a Buddhist,
besides
giving this
money to others, you could accumulate much good karma
by offering it to the Triple Gem. You use all that
money, which comes from your parents or other people,
on alcohol—for
just one or two minutes of pleasure. You could give
all that money to charity. There are many people dying
of
starvation
in the world. In Africa and many other places, there
are famines. There are a lot of poor people and people
in homes
for the aged and hospices who need help. In the East
there are Tibetan refugee camps.
With all that money you could benefit hundreds of thousands
of living beings. There is so much you could do with
it. If you do not use the money in this way, but
use it only
for your own happiness, you are actually destroying
your own life. Not only are you destroying yourself,
but you
are preventing yourself from benefiting all living
beings. This
is very important. Choose which you want to do: Do
you want to benefit others? Or do you want to destroy
yourself?
Following desire
You are all familiar with Elvis Presley, who is very famous
in the West. In his very last show Elvis sang: "I tried
and I tried, but I can't get no satisfaction. I tried and
I tried ...." The song goes on and on like this. Remember
that: "I tried and I tried, but can't get no satisfaction." Visualize
Elvis Presley, completely covered with sweat, with tears
streaming down his face because he could see that his whole
life was empty. He did not find any satisfaction. This is
an incredible teaching for us, an incredible meditation on
the need to control the mind, to control desire.
In reality, in the second that we stop following desire,
there is satisfaction. Right in that moment. No matter
where we are, on that same meditation cushion, in that
same house,
right in that moment, there is satisfaction. Before, we
experienced incredible dissatisfaction. We tried many
things, but nothing
made us happy. We had so many plans and kept ourselves
busy acquiring sense objects, but even after finding
them we were
never satisfied. We could never have enough.
Following desire brings more and more
problems, in this life and in so many future lifetimes. Following
desire
brings
unbearable problems, and for so long. The cause of all
these problems is stopped immediately we stop following
desire.
If we recognize the shortcomings of desire and stop following
it, we immediately find satisfaction, happiness, peace
of mind. As long as we are friends with the selfish mind,
we have problems continuously, hundreds and hundreds of problems,
one after another. Everyone seems to be our enemy and
we especially experience relationship problems. As long
as
you are oneness with the selfish mind, even though your
husband
or wife may not have run away with someone else, even
though you may physically live together, there are still
many
problems.
Destroying the selfish mind
Right in the minute that we separate from the selfish mind,
all our huge problems stop. Our huge depression, which was
like a gloomy valley completely covered by fog, is stopped.
Immediately we separate from the selfish mind, all that depression
is no longer a problem. All the disharmony and problems,
which were like living in a fire, are immediately stopped.
When your husband, wife or friend leaves you to live with
someone else, you experience so much worry and anger that
you are unable to eat, unable to sleep and have to take a
lot of pills. Again, as soon as you separate from the selfish
mind, all these problems are no longer problems. Immediately,
right in that minute. When you are one with the selfish mind,
it is a problem; when you separate from the selfish mind,
it is no longer a problem.
It is not enough simply to know that
all these problems come from the selfish mind; you have to
find a solution. The
solution, once you have seen that the original root of the
whole problem is related to your selfish mind, is to separate
yourself from this root. This is the best way to stop this
huge problem and find peace of mind, calmness and satisfaction.
In this way you become your own psychologist, your own doctor.
If you separate from the selfish mind,
since the wind—the vehicle of the mind—is not disturbed
and violent, the four
elements within your body are not disturbed, so you are healthy.
Otherwise, by following your selfish mind, you make yourself
unhappy and disturb your own mind. As you become very impatient
or jealous, the wind is disturbed, which then causes the
four elements within your body to become unbalanced. This
can even be physically dangerous, causing sickness, heart
attacks and so forth. As you know, from worry and fear, ulcers
and so many other problems can arise.
Identifying the problem is not enough. The only way to stop
problems completely is by actually separating from the selfish
mind. If you do not train your mind, even if the external
condition changes and you manage to persuade your partner
to come back to live with you, after a few days or months
or years you will again experience the same problem.
As long as you are completely dependent
on external conditions, you are not giving yourself freedom.
Conditions always change. There is nothing to trust; nothing
is definite. Again and again you will become depressed and
the thought to kill yourself
will come. When you cannot think of any solution, any way
to change the conditions so that your partner comes back
to you, the thought to commit suicide comes. Once this thought
comes it takes only a minute to kill yourself. To stop this
precious human life takes just a minute.
This is how the selfish mind treats you. If such a situation
happens, remember Shantideva's advice in A Guide to a
Bodhisattva's Way of Life: "If you are able to manage it, manage it.
There is no point in worrying. Some things you cannot manage
at all and again there is no point in worrying because you
cannot manage them." Worrying about something about
which you can do nothing is useless; for example, worrying
that you cannot make the sky become earth.
In situations where there is nothing
you can do, it is good to practice rejoicing. Think: "I
have enjoyed living with my friend for this length of time.
It is the same for
this other person. As I wanted happiness through living with
her, he wants the same happiness. He is as important as I
am; his happiness is important. There is no reason why he
shouldn't have the same opportunity to enjoy this happiness
as I had." Rejoice, thinking how wonderful it is that
this other person has found the happiness that he wanted.
In this way the situation becomes a cause for you to create
good karma.
In your everyday life rejoicing when others have success
in Dharma or in business, or find a friend, a good house,
any good thing, becomes the cause of your own success. Becoming
jealous of others' success interferes with your own. To create
the cause for your own success, it is very important to practice
rejoicing.
If your friend leaves you, think: "This
is exactly what my selfish mind needed. These problems have
been given to
me by my present selfish mind. Out of my selfish mind, I
have done something that she doesn't like. In past lives,
in past times, out of selfishness, I created the cause to
have this disharmony and separation. This relationship problem
has been given to me by my selfish mind. So, now, instead
of suffering by taking all these problems upon myself, I
want to give all these problems back to my enemy, the selfish
mind, and destroy it."
Practice mentally giving all your problems
to your selfish mind. Instead of thinking: "This is
my problem",
give it to the selfish mind. If you use all your problems
as weapons to destroy your selfish mind, you will have no
anger or jealousy left at all, and no opportunity to create
negative karma.
Then think: "These people are unbelievably
kind to me. I follow my selfish mind, but these people are
helping me
to destroy my enemy, my selfish mind, which is the source
of all my problems. Because I cannot destroy my selfish mind
by myself, they're helping me." Rather than allowing
anger or jealousy to arise, think in this way. Feel their
kindness from the very depth of your heart. Their kindness
is greater than if they had given you a million dollars.
Think: "They are giving me this present so that I can
destroy this selfish mind, which interferes with my obtaining
all my
happiness, especially the peerless happiness of enlightenment,
and happiness
for all other beings. Destroying this selfish mind is an
incredibly valuable present!" You can derive unbelievable
happiness from this thought. By practicing in this way,
you become your own guide, instead of your own enemy.
No matter what problem you experience, whether in your relationship
or with a disease such as cancer or AIDS, from time to time
think like this, "This problem is unbearable for me,
but this is not only my problem. Numberless other beings
have similar problems, and some even have much worse problems.
How wonderful it would be if all these beings were freed
from all these problems, all these sufferings and their causes,
and I could experience all their problems upon myself." Pray
for this to happen, "May I experience all their sufferings
and causes upon myself, and may they have all happiness."
Day and night, while you are working
or talking, continuously think: "I prayed for this to
happen and now I have received all their problems upon myself." Whether
experiencing a disease such as AIDS or cancer, a relationship
problem,
a business failure or a lost job, think, "I have prayed
to receive all the problems of other beings. I am now experiencing
this problem on their behalf." Again and again think
that you are experiencing your problem on behalf of others.
Instead of thinking, "I have this
problem, I have that problem—when can I be free?",
think again and again that you are experiencing the problem
for the sake of all
living beings. In this way there will be no depression and
much happiness. All the problems you experience will become
worthwhile and virtuous. Even if the problem continues, it
will become of unbelievable benefit in developing your mind,
your good heart and bodhicitta. This is the most beneficial
thing. By developing your mind and good heart, you can fulfill
the wishes of all living beings, obtaining happiness for
all of them. Having problems becomes more beneficial than
not having them. This is Mahayana thought transformation.
Buddhist view
As I said in the very beginning, Buddhist conduct is not
harming other sentient beings and Buddhist view is dependent
arising. Happiness and suffering arise by depending on causes
and conditions. We label "happiness" on the calm
feeling that has a sinking, satisfied aspect; we label "suffering" on
the rough feeling which is dissatisfied in character. Happiness
and suffering are dependent on the thought labeling and the
base, the different characteristics of those feelings. Happiness
exists in mere name, by depending on the thought and the
base, and it is the same with suffering. In dependence on
the particular base—that rough feeling which is the
opposite of satisfied—our mind labels "suffering." This
is the way suffering exists, in mere name.
Since suffering is a dependent arising, depending on causes
and conditions, it can be stopped by depending on other causes
and conditions. If suffering were not a dependent arising,
if it were independent, we would have no opportunity to stop
it. Suffering comes from the mind, from attachment, anger
and ignorance, which are also dependent arisings. Past actions
motivated by attachment, anger and ignorance have left imprints
of these on this mental continuum. These imprints cause attachment,
anger and ignorance to arise again when we meet the various
desirable, undesirable and indifferent objects.
These imprints are present because they have not been ceased
through generation of the remedy of the path within our mind.
However, even though the imprints are there in the mind,
if we put the teachings into practice by remembering to apply
the meditations while we are with the object of our attachment,
anger or ignorance, we can stop these delusions from arising
towards that object. If we remember the meditations, we can
control our mind so that there is no suffering, no confusion.
If we do not practice the relevant meditations to control
our mind when we are with the object, these disturbing thoughts
arise and we then experience problems.
We eliminate the imprints by actualizing
the remedy of the path within our own mind. In our daily
life,
each hour, each moment,
even right now, if we are aware, watching our mind and remembering
the various methods to control it, we can stop disturbing
thoughts and problems. Because it is a dependent arising,
the cause of suffering can be erased.
Just as non-virtuous thought is dependent on its cause and
conditions, so is virtuous thought, the cause of happiness.
By ceasing the causes and conditions of disturbing thoughts,
with other causes and conditions, the mind is transformed
into virtue.
Non-virtuous actions result mainly in the suffering of suffering,
which are recognized as problems even by those who are not
familiar with Buddhist teachings. Basically, non-virtuous
actions bring the suffering of suffering; virtuous actions
bring happiness. Depending upon the result it brings, an
action is labeled "virtue" or "non-virtue." This
is how virtue and non-virtue are dependent arisings, empty
of existing from their own side.
All this is possible because the basic nature of the mind,
which is non-physical, colorless and shapeless, is clear
and knowing, or able to perceive objects. On the particular
characteristics of this phenomenon, we have merely imputed "mind." Because
the consciousness joins from one life to another, we label
this "continuation of the mind." In dependence
on each particular function, a different name is given. Since
the mind arises in dependence upon the thought and the base,
we can see how the mind exists in mere name.
In reality the mind that appears to us as a real mind, in
the sense of existing from its own side, is a complete hallucination,
completely false. When we think of the evolution, it is very
clear that we give a different name to each of the mental
factors. Our mind merely imputes, "This is patience,
this is anger, this is loving kindness, this is compassion.
This is feeling, this is recognition." The mind that
exists is merely imputed on the base by thought. What appears
to us as a mind existing from its own side is completely
empty, a complete hallucination. We should realize that this
mind existing from its own side is empty, as it is empty.
If we realize this, we have realized the secret of the mind.
This emptiness is the clear light nature of the mind, the
absolute nature of the mind.
It is the same with the I. There is no reason at all to say, "I
am sitting here", except that your aggregates, the association
of your body and mind, are sitting on this cushion. That
is the only reason. The I is merely imputed on these aggregates
by the thought. At the moment your aggregates are performing
the action of sitting, so, "I am sitting." When
your aggregates perform the action of listening, "I
am listening" is labeled on that. Afterwards, when you
get up, when the aggregates change their action from sitting
to standing or walking: "I am standing" or "I
am walking." Or right now, "I am sleeping. I am
tired. I am exhausted from listening to all these mumbles." Each
time the I is merely imputed on the base by the thought.
No I in addition to this exists. Not the slightest atom more
than this exists. Whether you believe this or not, this is
the reality. The I who experiences all this happiness and
suffering, who does all these activities, who can benefit
others, who can achieve enlightenment, is merely imputed,
existing in mere name on these aggregates.
However, the I does not appear in this
way; instead, it appears as unlabeled, existing from its
own side. This I that appears as unlabeled, as real, is the
object of refutation. Realizing that this I is empty is realizing
the absolute nature of the I. This is the Middle Way.
By realizing
this, we can remove the ignorance which believes that the
I, which is merely labeled, exists from its own side as
unlabeled.
By developing the wisdom realizing the absolute nature
of the I, one can remove this ignorance, the root of the
whole
problem. By doing this, one also removes all of samsara,
and achieves liberation. By developing this wisdom, especially
with the
skilful means
of bodhicitta,
one is able to achieve enlightenment, the state of omniscient
mind, for the sake of all sentient beings. On the basis
of the Paramitayana path, one develops the greatly skilful
means
of tantra, especially Highest Yoga Tantra. With the generation
and completion stages of the deity yoga of Highest Yoga
Tantra, one achieves great bliss and the illusory body.
With Highest
Yoga Tantra one is able to achieve quickly the peerless
happiness of the state of omniscient mind; and then, by
revealing the
various methods that fit the various levels of mind of
sentient beings, one is able to lead every single sentient
being to
the peerless happiness of omniscient mind.
The heart advice
All this success depends on how much we practice good heart
in our everyday life. As Shantideva mentions in A Guide
to a Bodhisattva's Way of Life: "As long as you do not
drop the fire, you cannot stop the burning." Following
self-cherishing thought is like holding a red-hot coal in
your hand. As long as you do not drop it, you cannot stop
the burning. Like this, if you do not give up your selfish
mind, if you do not give up yourself, you cannot abandon
suffering. "To pacify your own suffering and the sufferings
of other sentient beings, give up yourself for other sentient
beings and cherish them as yourself." This is very clear,
very essential advice to you from the great bodhisattva Shantideva.
From all the words of sutra and tantra, this is the essential
advice of all the Buddhas of the three times, including Guru
Shakyamuni Buddha. This is the heart advice.
If you follow this advice, you and all
other sentient beings will find happiness, now and in the
future, always. I definitely
believe that if you put this Buddhist psychology of thought
transformation into practice, there is immediate benefit.
It is only a question of whether you put it into practice
when there is a problem. It is only a question of that.
In a lam-rim teaching Lama Tsongkapa
explains, "One
follows desire in order to get satisfaction, but the result
is only dissatisfaction." The result is that the problem,
the result of following desire, goes on and on and on; we
have the problem for much longer in this life, and in future
lives - especially in future lives.
It is not only that you have to experience the problem
for such an inconceivably long time, but it is so unbearable.
And you have so many problems. From this one problem, so
many other problems arise. Because you do not get what
you
want when you follow desire, anger arises towards other
people, and jealousy. So many other problems come. Then
each of these
problems creates many more problems, more and more, just
as a tree with many thousands of branches arises from one
tiny seed. What Lama Tsongkapa says is completely clear
and accords with our experience. Think deeply about this.
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