In this video extract, Lama Zopa Rinpoche explains that we live our entire life grasping at the real I, but in Buddhism we learn that the way the self appears is a total hallucination.
The I appears to exist from its own side, but it is merely imputed by the mind
Self-grasping ignorance believes the I to be concrete and inherently existent
The I appears to exist, but it can't be found anywhere on the aggregates
Teachings given at Tara Institute, Australia in June 2006.
Geshe Ngawang Dargyey gave this teaching on the nature of the self at Tushita Mahayana Meditation Centre, Delhi, in 1980.