My dear one,
There is something I left out when I spoke to you, but you must know this. I spoke about the guru to you and what you need to know is, perfect gurus such as Tilopa, Marpa and so forth, and perfect disciples like Naropa and Milarepa, however many hardships those disciples have, they never arise heresy or anger [toward to guru] even for one second. They never lose faith that the guru is a buddha.

That is the perfect disciple, who can bear all the hardships, in that special case. Then whatever the guru tells them to do, they should do everything, like in the case of Tilopa and Marpa, who are buddhas. That is why enlightenment in this life, in a brief lifetime of degenerate time, is possible. It happened not only to them, but to many others.

For ordinary people, if the guru tells you to do something which is not Dharma, for example, asking you to kill somebody or anything like that, then it is said in Fifty Verses of Guru Devotion¹ that you can ask permission to not do that action which is not Dharma.

You can do tangske, a sort of prostration, where you hold the upper robe and stroke it three times with your right hand, so it is like prostration, showing respect, then you ask permission to not do that action. It is said in another text, I think Vinaya, if the guru says to do non-Dharma things, to not do those actions.

What this means is that you can humbly, without losing faith that [the guru] is a buddha, with that faith, you humbly ask permission to not do that. You request to not do that action. That’s what it says. But do not think the guru doesn’t know Dharma, do not show arrogance, which creates so much negative karma.

Generally, however much the guru knows—whether the guru is an expert, or middle or knows a little Dharma—from your side you have to respect them. From the disciple’s side you have to respect them, so ordinary people must respectfully request permission [to not do something which is not Dharma.]

Therefore, my emphasis is to check the guru from the very, very beginning. Don’t be like a dog that sees the food, the meat, thrown out, then immediate runs to it without checking. That’s why, in the beginning, checking the guru is the most important thing in your life, so your life is protected and you don’t get into trouble later

With much love and prayers ...

Notes

¹ (Disciples) having great sense should obey the words of their guru joyfully and with enthusiasm.
   If you lack the knowledge or ability (to do what he says), explain in (polite) words why you cannot (comply).
          - Verse 24, Fifty Verses of Guru Devotion [Return to text]

My dearest, most kind, most precious, wish-fulfilling one,
Thank you very much for your kind letter.

I will give you a simple example. Shakyamuni Buddha is sang gye in Tibetan. Sang means having totally eliminated the gross and subtle defilements—even the subtle negative imprints, and the dualistic mind and dualistic view—and because of that, gye, the total completion of realizations, with nothing more to generate.

Another way to present this is someone who has omniscient mind directly sees all the past, present and future, and is directly able to read numberless sentient beings’ minds in each of the six realms at the same time, never mixed up with each other. [A buddha] sees directly all the sufferings, all the delusions, as well as having all the different methods for different sentient beings, in order to gradually bring all sentient beings to buddhahood, including us—you and me—us.

Then having the power to reveal all the different methods to every sentient being including you; having perfect power to benefit others and also having infinite compassion for all sentient beings including you. Thinking that way, because of His Holiness the Dalai Lama, Kyabje Choden Rinpoche and all the other lamas who you have received initiations and teachings from, and because of the qualities of the Buddha, this manifestation happened to guide you.

With this understanding of the Buddha you won’t arise attachment toward your guru; you won’t arise attachment, only devotion, which is not attachment.

You have to realize it’s exactly like this with all the other gurus that you have, even now with this one that you got the oral transmission from. Without thinking and without realizing that he is like the Buddha, with all the qualities, then you will have attachment, especially because he is young, so the ordinary mind arises. As he appears ordinary, then the ordinary mind arises and you get attached, especially as he is young. If you realize he is like the Buddha, if you look at him in the same way as the Buddha, if you realize that, then you will never arise attachment, only devotion. You will never get sexual feelings and only pure devotion will arise, for example, how you would feel if you are in front of the Buddha, you feel like that.

It is very important to follow and practice His Holiness the Fifth Dalai Lama’s instructions. Here is his very powerful advice:

In the view of your hallucinated mind, your own mistakes appear in the guru’s actions. This shows your heart is definitely rotten. Recognizing them as your own faults, abandon them as poison.

With devotion and respect, [reflect on] the pure appearance, seeing whatever actions are done by the guru as positive, and practice whatever the guru advises. The profound vital points, whatever is done, go into Dharma.

That should be understood as the root of happiness and benefits, and the completion of all your wishes. In your everyday life having awareness of this is the most important guru yoga practice.

Another quotation for you to understand is what the Buddha said in the Sutra of the Meeting of Father and Son:

The Buddha manifests in the costume of Indra and Brahma
And sometimes in the costume of Mara
To work for the benefit of sentient beings,
But worldly beings do not realize this.
The Buddha also appears as a woman and as an animal.

Free from attachment, the Buddha manifests having attachment;
Free from fear, the Buddha manifests fear;
The Buddha is not ignorant but manifests ignorance;
The Buddha is not crazy but can appear crazy.
The Buddha is not blind but can manifest blindness.
In various manifested aspects the Buddha subdues sentient beings.

The whole thing relates to the guru, to all your gurus, as well as this one that you have received an oral transmission from. So you have to meditate in that way, by relating like that.

You will learn a lot from these two quotations, if you think well and think always not only of your enlightenment but to liberate all sentient beings from the oceans of samsaric suffering and bring them to buddhahood. These quotes give you a lot to think about; there is so much to understand.

Please show these quotations, these teachings, to your friends or to those who have a similar problem, maybe not with the same guru as you, maybe with a different guru.

Thank you very much.

With much love and prayers ...