The thing is, from the Buddhist point of view, it is very important for one to have the enlightenment attitude. It is an important thing. The reason is, I think I can say, that without some kind of attitude or thought with which to transform the actions of our daily life, life seems to be a disaster. If you are living in a couple relationship, or even if you are just a single person, you still have to relate with human beings. Even if you go into the Himalaya Mountains, you still have to relate with sentient beings, human beings. There is no place that you can go where you don’t have to relate with human beings, so it is very important to have this attitude, because all actions, both good and bad, depend on it. You know—I’m not going to tell you that, you know already. So in order to transform our lives, to live in the best way, we desperately need to constantly have the divine quality enlightenment attitude, bodhicitta.
Anyway, the attitude is so important. We always say “profound life,” don’t we, in the West? We do say, everybody uses the words, “profound life.” Profound life means profound meaning, profound destination or profound aim. The reason that we human beings are bored with each other is that we don’t have a profound destination. We shake hands with each other and that is it, that is the aim, our aim is finished. Then we are bored. We can’t see that besides shaking hands there is some profound meaning and reality, we can’t see. That is what’s wrong. Really, the point is that we Westerners should live as much as we can by taking what life and society offer. You should have a comfortable life, you can do that, you can take that advantage, you can use that. But at the same time, you should know that sense pleasures and comfort of this life are not the only things to live for. We can do better, better. Each day we can live a better life. It doesn’t matter whether I’m young or stupid or old at the moment. Still my potential for a joyful life can grow infinitely.
Also, you understand the characteristic of the bodhicitta attitude is that one is not concerned with the comfort of only one’s own life; moreover, one is not only concerned with one’s own liberation. One sees or recognizes that the potential for everlasting peace and the blissful state exists within all of the universal sentient beings. Last, one takes the responsibility of leading all these sentient beings and fertilizing their potential—taking the responsibility all by oneself. This attitude is very important.
For example, often we have friends. Sometimes your friend might say, “This time I need somebody to do this.” He expresses a need for something, some help from you. He doesn’t ask in a heavy way, and our self-cherishing thought doesn’t have room or sensitive awareness or understanding to take that vibration into our mind. We are already blocked. You see, the human psychology is that really, if you have not prepared yourself in such a way, even when your friend expresses his need to you like this you just ignore it. You can see, your friend is not stupid. He knows, “I tried to express myself in such a way but look, he never heard, it never went into his mind.” Unbelievable, that’s the way it goes. I think we all do this. It’s not so good, is it?
You have a relationship with another person, and sometimes that person really gives their life, their energy, everything to you for such a long time. And when he has a difficult time and expresses his need in a very gentle way, your concrete mind is so strong that it never occurs to you that he needs something. It just goes off from here. Can you imagine? I mean the other person is going to be hurt, isn’t he? That means you have no preparation; you have no foundation to receive, you have already rejected, “Urrr,” you have already built a wall. Or maybe as Westerners say, the door is already closed. So there’s no room. That is the way human problems and conflict come.
Then the next day perhaps intellectually you say to your friend, “Wow, can I do something for you?” And he thinks, “Forget it. Yesterday I told you so many times that I needed help and you didn’t pay any attention. Today you are just saying, ‘Hello, can I help you. Do you want something from me now?’” It’s true, completely true. You see, this is the way all the human conflict comes. Some reason, incredible. I tell you, that takes tremendous energy. Just to hear, let alone your sharing. Some reason, I don’t understand human beings; just to hear, just to be receptive is difficult, let alone saying, “Oh, you have this problem; I’m sorry, I have compassion.” Even though these things are not new, still, to be kind of sympathetic also takes time. It takes time, we are just like stone, so much like stone; with no response to the needs of any humans or other sentient beings. That is the problem. So in human relationships it is very important to be open to each other, sort of willing, determined, wanting to help each other. If you determine in that way, then there is room for the gross information to come in through here to here. [Lama points at his ear then his heart.]
The Tibetan yogi, Lama Je Tsongkhapa said that the enlightenment attitude, bodhicitta, is the essence of the Mahayana vehicle and it is also the foundation of development of the six paramitas and the ten bodhisattva bhumis. It is also like alchemy, the energy that has the ability to transform iron into gold. Similarly, by having the enlightenment attitude, it is possible to transform our mundane Western life into the transcendental bodhicitta path to enlightenment, the path to enlightenment. It is possible.