My very dear one,
Thank you for your kind email, I am sorry for the long delay.
I checked about you going to Tibet. You must do the protector pujas Mahakala, Kalarupa, Namthose, Hayagriva—the full protector pujas called Khangso. Then going to Tibet is good, otherwise it’s not good. Maybe, not sure, a heart attack might happen. Request the Kopan nuns to do the pujas for you.
Regarding your question about sur, the initiation is a big spank on the backside, like parents beating their children—in the East we do that but not in the West—just joking. Yes, please explain, I am sure it’s very good as many people want to do sur. It’s very good to do, because it helps the pretas and smell eaters. It’s their food, so it’s good to do, as there are numberless smell eaters.
Please continue to make your life most meaningful with the thought of bodhicitta day and night and in every action you do.
With much love and prayers...